My husband Chris and I rarely went out on dates when we decided that we wanted to get married someday. We saved the money we would normally spend going out and saved it for our future home. Only 9 months after we were married we found out that I was pregnant. I was attending Cosmetology school 60-65 hours a week plus a part-time job teaching dance and figure skating. Chris was also working 60+ hours a week. We had little time and little energy to go out.
Fast forward a bit and add 3 kids in 4 years to the mix and we still struggle to find the time to date. However, we both strongly agree it's essential to carve out some time during the week to focus on your spouse. Our relationship is always changing and growing with the seasons and unpredictable events of life.
We've noticed that if we intentionally take some time to focus on each other even for just an hour a week there is less arguing, more affection, more thoughtfulness, and less stress.
How to Date Your Spouse When You Have Young Kids
1. Schedule 3-4 date nights a month. Yep, take out your calendar and pick your date nights. Aim for at least once a week.
2. Plan an activity. Check out this post for date night ideas.
3. Put the kids to bed early or hire a sitter. Hire a reliable sitter if you plan a night out. Not every date needs to be out of the house tho. Put the kids to bed a little early to get some extra time alone.
4. Get dressed up. Take a shower, put some fresh clothes on, spray your spouses favorite perfume/cologne on and brush your teeth. I like to get dressed up even when we are staying in.
5. Add something special just for that night. Our something special is usually a new drink or dessert. It's something we look forward to and something we don't do often normally. This could be anything you want and something special to look forward to all week.
Cranberry Marshmallow Protein Balls
1 cup Peanut Butter
1/3 cup Honey
1/4 cup Dried Cranberries
1/4 cup Mini Marshmallows
Mix together in a medium bowl or food processor (use the dough blade). Roll into balls or use a small ice cream scooper. Place in fridge or eat right away.
Chris and I love to get out of the house and have a date night but it's not always possible with 3 young kids. Hiring a babysitter can get expensive and sometimes staying in is just as fun.
I put together 20 date night ideas you can have at home that we've tried and want to try.
1. Have beer/wine/mixed drink tasting. Grab a new drink to try together.
2. Ice cream night. Make sundaes with fun creative toppings.
3. Cook a new meal together.
4. Paint night. Grab some paint, brushes, and paper and paint together. You could even use the same paper and see what you come up with together.
5. Have a bonfire and roast marshmallows.
6. Play video games together.
7. Exchange foot rubs.
8. Have a picnic on the floor or take it outside under the stars.
9. Build a fort together.
10. Chopped Challenge at home. Have a friend fill a bag with ingredients neither of you know about. Set a timer and race the clock together.
11. Do a puzzle together.
12. Dream about your future together and where you'd like to be in the next 5-10 years.
13. Look at your wedding album or watch your wedding video.
14. Play a card/board game.
15. Snapchat each other when one is out of town.
16. Movie and popcorn night.
17. Watch a sports game together and dress in your teams colors.
18. Play minute to win it games.
19. Play hide and seek.
20. Listen to an audio book together.
My friend Suni Ferrer came up with this amazing "Get Well" Slushy for when her kids are coming down with something and don't want to swallow vitamins.
I started giving my boys the slushy and they LOVE it! They ask for it as a dessert after dinner. I have no problem with that! Healthy kids equal a happy mom :) I've even tried it and I was surprised just how sweet and tasty it was.
"Get Well" Slushy
By Suni Ferrer
Makes 2 child servings or 1 adult serving.
- 2-4 oz. filtered water (Get Clean Water pitcher removes lead)
- 7-10 ice cubes
- 6 Defend & Resist (Zinc, Echinacea, Black Elderberry)
- 2 Nutriferon
- 10 Chewable Vita-C
- 1 Vita-D3
- 3 Tbsp Performance Orange (or Lemon-Lime)
- 2 Incredivites or 1 Vita-Lea (optional, if not taking separately)
- 1 Lime or 1/2 lemon or 1 Orange, freshly squeezed
- 7 drops liquid stevia or 1 packet stevia to taste (optional)
- 3-5 Alfalfa Complex (optional, decongesting and helps digestion)
Blend until slushy, Serve in 2 bowls with a spoon. Cover with lid and save in freezer any unused portions. If you blend too long, then it turns into a refreshing ice beverage you can enjoy with a straw.
Note: This can also be made as a room-temperature drink, simply use 8-16 oz. water and omit ice cubes.
Give this yummy slushy-sorbet as a natural remedy at the first sign of illness and repeat in 4 hours.
To boost immunity even more, take 1-2 Optiflora probiotic capsules per day.